The art of letting go of perfection
The art of letting go of perfection
When you are never enough, or can never give enough, no matter how much you give of yourself, you may be aiming for a widely sought after, popular state of being, known as perfection.
Trying to achieve or maintain a state of perfection can feel like being locked in a cage – one of your own making.
A bird in a cage may look perfectly content and beautiful, but while in the cage can never access its greatest ability: flight. Are you the bird who has locked yourself away, thereby preventing yourself from being able to access your own ability to fly?
When you do this, you deny the rest of us the privilege of seeing you fly. Your flight is inspiring to everyone else who is trying to learn how to use their own wings.
Your flight may help me realize I can fly as well.
Letting go of needing to be perfect can be tough, and it's possible to learn how to do it.
In order to fly well, you have to try, and run the risk of not doing it perfectly. You have to risk publicly failing, and having to hear from the others (who’ve not yet flown their own craft) tell you in well-meaning-but-relieved-that-you-failed voices, “I told you so. Stay close to the ground where you’ll be safe!”.
The thing they may have forgotten about the alleged wisdom of staying close to the safe ground is that a) it’s not really safe – there are predators there too, and b) a bird is safer in flight, more powerful, faster, and able to find dinner more easily. Also c) it’s fun to fly, really beautiful to see birds in flight.
If you fail, the others will use your failure as an excuse to not even try. If you fail publicly, they will never let you forget it if you let them get away with it.
But if you fail because you are learning to stretch your wings, learning to fly, that’s not really a failure at all, is it? Failing isn’t the end, it’s part of the journey.
If you succeed, the lie that it can’t be done is seen, and everyone who is too afraid to even try will be feeling the pain of your success, while reaching for another round of excuses about why they cannot even begin to try.
Another problem about all of this flying about is that if you (and the bird) take off into the air, it’s more difficult to pin either of you down, control you, or keep you in plain, controllable, view. Obviously, this isn’t a problem for you, (or the bird), just for the control freaks in your life, and anyone else who can’t see themselves flying yet so don’t you dare even try.
Birds were designed to fly. You were designed to become who you are.
But you get to decide what that is and do the work involved that it takes to get there. If you never fly, never become who you truly are, you’ll never know what you might have seen while in flight.
If you can get your nerve up to take off, even in the face of resistance, invalidation, fear, and a lack of control over the outcome, if you can trust that you’ll do well in your quest to find what you are seeking – it won’t matter if you fly better than anyone else, or if you do it with finesse.
Just by trying, you succeed. The trick is to get up and try again tomorrow, to step forward, to take off, to keep yourself moving.
Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from taking flight.
Brene Brown
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We learn about ourselves in our relationships, even when the lesson is difficult and painful. The relationships with the people who can clearly see and value you are the ones that bring the magic and possibility into your life. Every relationship with others begins with the one we have with ourselves. This reading is a look at how and what you are creating in your relationship space now in your life. What is working, and what isn't in present time with your spirit? Your questions are welcome too.
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The Weekly Energy Report: Perfection
Kris talks about the demand to be perfect, and some of the energies around getting caught up in this sticky energy. Also: a short review on the new ‘Barbie’ film.
Inspiration for letting go of perfection
I posted about this book over in my art Substack this week, and it’s worth reposting here: I love Julia Cameron’s new book on writing: Write For Life. It’s so inspiring and healing to read, and a big push for this writer in simply writing and letting go of perfection.
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Wednesdays starting September 6th at 11:00am PT for four weeks, with Kris Cahill online at the Art of the Seer Academy*.
Meditation is a creative skill and a powerful ally for your life!
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