Do you have to choose between freedom and approval?
Are you torn between choosing to have what you want, and needing to have others approve of you?
Hi friends, I hope you are doing well and finding time for yourself this week. In this intense time of stressful change, your daily choices become more important than ever. Read on for this week’s article.
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Do you have to choose between freedom and approval?
Are you torn between choosing to have what you want, and needing to have others approve of you before you have what you want?
When you don’t have the freedom to choose to create or have what you truly want, you might be giving up your space to fears that others won’t like you if you do the things you really want to do.
If you’re afraid you’ll anger someone or hurt their feelings when you change, you’re allowing your need for their approval to control you. You can’t blame somebody else for this. It’s within your power to change it, not theirs.
If you’ve allowed others to have power over you, that again isn’t their problem to solve, it’s yours. If you need others to approve of you living your life the way you see fit, and if you won’t make a move without their blessing, you have nobody else to blame when you don’t get what you want.
You don’t have to make your life a democracy in which everyone else gets a vote on what you are able to choose for yourself.
You may have been trying to be nice, and to not create conflicts with others who think they know exactly who you are and what you should do. So, to keep the peace, you hold back, waiting for others to sign on to the idea of you having your own life.
Perhaps you spend a lot of your energy helping them out, and they just don’t know what they would do without you. You end up feeling guilty at the thought of not being there for others, and your life becomes all about keeping it together for them.
It could also be true that they are competing with you and are afraid you’ll leave them behind if you get to be validated at the thing you love to do. When others withhold emotionally because you’re out of their control, that is a giant red flag.
Meanwhile, what you see is possible for you and the things you want in your life, don’t go away. You have a conflict in your space between what you think you should do, and what you really want to do.
A good dose of truth within yourself will go far in helping you to change the patterns of not making your life your own.
By being honest with yourself, you can see yourself and your dreams more clearly. If you have no support for your dreams in your personal world, and are expected to give your energy away so that others can achieve theirs, you're in agreement to give your life over to others without concern for your own desires, needs, and self.
You can change this anytime you choose to do so. It’s not always simple or easy, and like any other positive healing changes, takes time, step by step. A good first step is to build up your own self approval from within, finding your love for yourself from the inside out.
We humans need and want each other, and having positive reinforcement from others is wonderful. But just in case you don’t have that from those nearest to you, know that you can still find it, and that you do indeed deserve to have it for yourself.
Self knowledge and self approval are powerful ways to live.
It’s funny how having this for yourself from within will magically attract the people who love your new self approval sparkle.
Waiting around for others to see your value and mirror it back is a waste of energy and time. If you’re in relationship to people who can never mirror, don’t appear interested in you or your life, never act curious about you or ask you anything about yourself, or just ask a quick perfunctory ‘how are you?’ before launching into a monologue about themselves, you know what I mean.
Maybe a parent behaves like this, or other people you know are like this. They are not validating to be around, especially the Monologue People, who always have an unending tale of whatever is going on in their lives that is definitely more interesting than you are. They are uncurious, ie; boring and tedious energy suckers.
Curiosity in relationships is also about really taking time to know each other, because every one of us has something interesting to give, if we choose to do so. This is a way of building a true trust and friendship. But it all begins within us, do we have the permission to share who we are with those around us?
When you decide that self approval and being happy with who you are means more to you than winning any illusory popularity contests, you’re well on the way to creating your life from a place of inner freedom. This is your true job in this lifetime.
Psychic Classes & Meditation Recordings
Group Clairvoyance Mastery Class begins Saturday, April 19, 2025.
This group class is taking place through the Art of the Seer Academy, and I’m teaching it! This class is at a NEW very affordable price. If you’ve been wanting to learn how to turn on your own clairvoyant ability, this is a wonderful time to begin.
Unlock Your Intuition – A 10-Week Journey - This is an immersive 10-week course, offered on a rotating basis for $595. This class is designed to help you activate and refine your third eye with specialized techniques. Guided by expert instructors and supported by a like-minded community, you’ll develop the ability to perceive subtle energies with clarity and confidence. Walk away with enhanced intuitive skills, practical tools for navigating life’s challenges, and a deeper trust in your inner wisdom—all while embracing the joy of psychic discovery.
Clairvoyance Mastery One to One class: Learn the art of clairvoyance in a unique 10 week class that’s tailor made for you.
If you’d prefer a class just for yourself, custom designed for you, I offer one to one psychic classes.
This individualized class will teach you tools and techniques that will have you reading energy on a clairvoyant level quickly. Tailored to you, this course provides coaching, and tips to practice what you're learning.
No matter your level of experience with meditation or psychic classes, this class will work for you. Meet with me if you have questions.
Meditation Drop-Ins: Saturday April 19 & Wednesday April 23
New time: Wednesday 4/23 begins at 5:00pm PDT!
4/19 at 9:30am PDT: Creativity Meditation - Your spirit is inherently creative. Whatever you create or have a desire to create, it starts within you at the level of spirit. Creativity is joyful and fun, and this meditation is a creative journey into having more of your creativity freed up for you now in your daily life.
4/23 at 5:00pm PDT: Letting Go of Scarcity - This meditation is about having and seeing the natural abundance in your life and all around you. Rather than matching to the fear being drummed into us all of ‘not enough’, you can choose to vibrate in abundance.
Each session lasts 45 minutes, costs $22.00, and all participants receive an audio recording after the session. A Zoom link will be sent to you after you sign up.
Meditation Recordings
I write and record guided meditations on a variety of topics. All are available through my online shop, for immediate download.
Inspiration for choosing yourself
Book: ‘Regrettably, I Am About To Cause Trouble’ by Amie McNee is a fun wonderful historical fiction novel that I loved. Check out Amie McNee’s website.
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